I see divorce all the time. At SIEGELLAW, divorce is what we do. Whether it is Howard County or elsewhere throughout the State of Maryland, divorce equals stress. High conflict divorce equals high stress. The higher your stress, the more it can affect your health.
Still don’t believe me? Think about this for a minute. During your divorce, have you taken to nail-biting? Do you pace? Are you drinking or smoking? Are you taking medication (or drugs) to try to “relax?” Have you started isolating yourself from others? Have you become a procrastinator? Have you found that you stopped doing things on-time?
These are also symptoms of behavioral problems incident to the stress of going through a divorce.
Now, let’s turn to emotional issues. Does your divorce make you feel overwhelmed? Do you get angry easily? Having problems relaxing or falling asleep? Have you become moody? Are you irritable? Does any of this sound familiar?
Let’s ramp it up a bit and start talking about even more serious signs that your divorce is affecting you physically. When you think about it honestly and bluntly, have you exercised poor judgment recently? Are you having spells of anxiety? Does your mind race? Are you finding it difficult to concentrate? Do you think you are having memory impairment, either minimally or a bit more?
Now, let’s turn to the physical manifestations of being affected by your divorce. Have you encountered any episodes of your heart racing? Problems with going to the bathroom? Sex drive issues? Getting colds or other chronic illnesses?
I defy anyone going through a divorce to not be able to identify with any of the above symptoms of getting a divorce.
So, what do you do about these issues?
Find a way to own up to them, and then, make them your strength! Knowledge is power. Get to a therapist, a counselor, a psychologist, psychiatrist, etc… but get somewhere.
Divorce attorneys tend to know many of the best mental health professionals and can help you find the best way to make it through your divorce so that you come through the other end of it with your physical and mental health intact.
Okay, this is not one of my “normal” blogs, but you know what, mens sana in corpore sano, that what they used to say, right? And for those of you who were not tortured with years of Latin, this means “a sound mind in a sound body.”
Good advice, more than 1000 years old. Huh, life does repeat itself, doesn’t it?