So, you may have read recent stories out of Kansas where a sperm donor was required to pay child support. Could this happen in Howard County? Anywhere else in Maryland?
Should I end this blog with the word yes? That wouldn’t be any fun, would i?
Here is the answer.
By donating sperm in conjunction with a legal agreement, you should be able to create an iron clad defense against later paying child support for a child you fathered through your sperm donation.
Why shouldn’t you be protected if you do not have the protection of a legal agreement? That answer is pretty easy, actually. Imagine a world where two consenting adults have protected sex, the woman gets pregnant, and the father does not feel it is right he should pay child support. What if the woman told the man she was on birth control but really wasn’t? What is the man told the woman he was using a spermicidal condom, but it was really an old condom that was in his wallet for the last 15 years?
In short, it is convenient to make all sorts of excuses after the deed is done to try to get out of paying child support. The policy being protected is the avoidance of child support from consented sexual relations that could result in the making of a child.
Contrasting this is the antiseptic legally protected anonymous environment where a man donates–or is paid–to provide sperm into a bank, where a woman is subsequently impregnated, having no knowledge of who the father is. It is a protected relationship, based on anonymity, along with a legal contract to ensure the sperm provider is never deemed a “father.”
The moral of the story is that if you are donating sperm, get legal advice to ensure you are protecting from exposure to a future child support claim. If you need further assurance, let’s do some math. If you are required to pay $1000 per month child support for 18 years, you will be paying $216,000.00 in child support, all because you chose not to invest a modest amount in seeking legal advice and a written agreement to protect you.
There is one issue left open on this topic, which is what about the woman who donates eggs? Could she be liable to pay child support to the couple-or man-using those eggs in the future? Why not? The same logic applies.
Don’t become a headline. If you are donating sperm or eggs, legally protect yourself by speaking to an attorney knowledgeable in family law, such as one of the many attorneys at SIEGELLAW.